Well, did you get a nice big chocolate egg or a massive bunch of flowers, or even just a card from your secret lover this Easter?
If you did, then he was obviously thinking about you... or maybe he was feeling a bit guilty about not being with you?
Either way, you were not forgotten, & I bet there are millions of people in the world that had no-one to remember them at all.
Hope you had a lovely Easter whatever you did, bet all the chocolate has been long eaten though!
The Secret loves of an ordinary woman.
Friday, April 13, 2012
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Get a grip ... now!
Ok, tough love may be what's needed today.
You are feeling down, depressed, you can't have the love of your life, they belong to another, you're miserable, moping around, feeling sorry for yourself.
Ah, what a shame.
NO IT ISN'T!
Time for some tough talking here, you are a person, a lovely person, you have a life, you could have a much better one if it weren't for all the moping around you are doing right now.
Be selfish today, get yourself out & about in the world, talk to people, smile, eat, treat yourself to something nice & have some self worth.
You only get one life, start enjoying it today.
You are feeling down, depressed, you can't have the love of your life, they belong to another, you're miserable, moping around, feeling sorry for yourself.
Ah, what a shame.
NO IT ISN'T!
Time for some tough talking here, you are a person, a lovely person, you have a life, you could have a much better one if it weren't for all the moping around you are doing right now.
Be selfish today, get yourself out & about in the world, talk to people, smile, eat, treat yourself to something nice & have some self worth.
You only get one life, start enjoying it today.
Friday, March 9, 2012
How to say goodbye.
We all know full well, when the time has come to say goodbye to that secret love.
All sorts of things intervene in a clandestine relationship to put pressure on it, and eventually, it becomes unbearable. Life is miserable, and it's time to move on.
So, how to say thank you & goodbye may not really convey your true feelings.
An email, well that's downright cruel, unless you hate the person so much, you don't care about upsetting them even more.
By far the best thing in my opinion, is to go out somewhere quiet & peaceful. A park, river bank picnic, or a long walk in the countryside. This way, you can say your goodbyes calmly and with a good explanation.
Once you're done explaining & it's time to walk away, you could give them a card with some nice words in to say what a great time you've had with them. Let them down gently & with some dignity.
More than that, leave your secret lover with nice memories of parting, not those harsh words that never heal in the mind.
All sorts of things intervene in a clandestine relationship to put pressure on it, and eventually, it becomes unbearable. Life is miserable, and it's time to move on.
So, how to say thank you & goodbye may not really convey your true feelings.
An email, well that's downright cruel, unless you hate the person so much, you don't care about upsetting them even more.
By far the best thing in my opinion, is to go out somewhere quiet & peaceful. A park, river bank picnic, or a long walk in the countryside. This way, you can say your goodbyes calmly and with a good explanation.
Once you're done explaining & it's time to walk away, you could give them a card with some nice words in to say what a great time you've had with them. Let them down gently & with some dignity.
More than that, leave your secret lover with nice memories of parting, not those harsh words that never heal in the mind.
Monday, February 27, 2012
Love Hurts
Don't let anyone tell you that love never hurts ... because it does!
It hurts when you are apart, it hurts when you know they are with someone else, it hurts that you can't be together all of the time.
Sadly, there's no pill that you can take to ease the pain.
The best remedy is to stay occupied. Work harder, take up a hobby, get out more, widen your circle of friends, get gardening, cycling, cooking, anything to take your mind off the hurt you're feeling.
It will all seem better tomorrow.
It hurts when you are apart, it hurts when you know they are with someone else, it hurts that you can't be together all of the time.
Sadly, there's no pill that you can take to ease the pain.
The best remedy is to stay occupied. Work harder, take up a hobby, get out more, widen your circle of friends, get gardening, cycling, cooking, anything to take your mind off the hurt you're feeling.
It will all seem better tomorrow.
Friday, February 17, 2012
Valentine's Day & secret lovers
How was your Valentine's Day?
Did you get a big bunch of red roses,chocolates or perhaps just a card from your secret lover?
Lovers are usually far more attentive, thoughtful & will be ready to spoil you at the drop of a hat. That's what makes a secret love so exciting, and long after Valentine's Day has gone, you will have the memory of that special gift that know one else knew about.
Did anyone propose?
Did you get a big bunch of red roses,chocolates or perhaps just a card from your secret lover?
Lovers are usually far more attentive, thoughtful & will be ready to spoil you at the drop of a hat. That's what makes a secret love so exciting, and long after Valentine's Day has gone, you will have the memory of that special gift that know one else knew about.
Did anyone propose?
Saturday, February 11, 2012
I have my love to keep me warm!
Well, you know the words of the old song don't you.
At present, we are deep in snow here & it's tough getting out on foot, let alone in the car.
Secret liaisons with secret lovers are doubly difficult at this time of year.
Worse still, if you made the date before the snowfall & now can't get to the rendezvous, you must be throwing things at the wall!
So, why not take the time to compose a letter to your secret lover. Write down all the things you have wanted to say, but never dared. Don't be too mushy about it, just be plain honest about your feelings.
It will help get your own head sorted about the relationship & your lover might be surprised about the depth of your feelings. They might even dare to reveal there own!
Spring is around the corner, so chin up, get your letter written, even if you never give it to them.
Have a good week.
Inkflo
At present, we are deep in snow here & it's tough getting out on foot, let alone in the car.
Secret liaisons with secret lovers are doubly difficult at this time of year.
Worse still, if you made the date before the snowfall & now can't get to the rendezvous, you must be throwing things at the wall!
So, why not take the time to compose a letter to your secret lover. Write down all the things you have wanted to say, but never dared. Don't be too mushy about it, just be plain honest about your feelings.
It will help get your own head sorted about the relationship & your lover might be surprised about the depth of your feelings. They might even dare to reveal there own!
Spring is around the corner, so chin up, get your letter written, even if you never give it to them.
Have a good week.
Inkflo
Monday, January 2, 2012
How are you feeling?
I would like to wish you a Happy New Year, but I sort of think you might not be feeling much like celebrating the New Year if you've been alone and without the company of your secret love for a while.
It's been hard, I know, everyone is full of the festive spirit and bonhomie, whilst you have been sitting around gorging on anything that will fill your need for comfort and warmth.
Still, it's a New Year and a time for you to consider what may lie ahead in 2012.
Firstly, do you want to carry on with this secret love affair and it's dangerous liaisons?
If you answer yes, then you will be hoping no doubt for more time and better quality time with your secret lover.
You might also be reflecting on the heartache, loneliness and just darned inconvenience of this relationship. Is it really a fair match or in truth, is it all one sided and not on yours either!
Whatever you decide, I will just say one thing.
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF
It's your life and you only get one go at it.
Good luck with your decision, I hope 2012 will bring you health and happiness.
Take Care.
It's been hard, I know, everyone is full of the festive spirit and bonhomie, whilst you have been sitting around gorging on anything that will fill your need for comfort and warmth.
Still, it's a New Year and a time for you to consider what may lie ahead in 2012.
Firstly, do you want to carry on with this secret love affair and it's dangerous liaisons?
If you answer yes, then you will be hoping no doubt for more time and better quality time with your secret lover.
You might also be reflecting on the heartache, loneliness and just darned inconvenience of this relationship. Is it really a fair match or in truth, is it all one sided and not on yours either!
Whatever you decide, I will just say one thing.
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF
It's your life and you only get one go at it.
Good luck with your decision, I hope 2012 will bring you health and happiness.
Take Care.
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